When I graduated from college, I was so excited to finally be able to work and earn my own money. Most of us want that sense of being independent.
Life back then was relatively easy, no worries, and no responsibilities. It was free from all that. And looking back, those moments became my foundation to what I hold on to today.
Here are 3 out of many life advices I can share from a mid 30s:
1. Go out and discover.
Work is important but it should not limit your life. I vividly remember how my officemates would clock out on the dot while I am still on my desk rendering overtime. I could not understand back then why do they leave "early". Honda. (honda dot umalis)
I soon realize that there more to life than work. Do things that you always wanted to try. Find stuff that you are passionate about. Discover new talent that you have been keeping for so long. Find the balance that makes you look forward for weekends. Learn new things. And don't forget to have fun. Be silly. Be crazy. Build good memories. Because when the time comes, you will be needing those memories and experiences to help you keep moving forward.
2. Plan ahead
I remember one-time when a stranger called me to offer an insurance package. I was clueless. I don't even know what those are. All I know is that this person is calling me non-stop and I don't want to be rude and I just want to be nice. She explained that buying insurance at that time is a smart thing to do because the premium is still cheap. And it is for our future. It can serve as my retirement and health insurance in case something happens. At that time, I don't even have a 10 year horizon plan but I availed for it anyway. Turns out it was the best decision I made at that time.
You may not realize it now but soon you will have a family, soon you want to settle down, soon you will grow old and soon you might get tired from working. All these things is inevitable and planning ahead will give you better chances of enjoying life down the road.
Whether it is for your career, business, financial status or relationship, having a plan, even a rough long term plan is better than no plan at all. Plant seeds now so you can enjoy the fruits later.
3. Don't be afraid to fail
When I decided to finally resign and pursued my passion as a filmmaker, it did not come easy. It was a risk. What if I don't get clients? What if I suck? What if I fail?
You will never know the answer to those questions, unless you try.
Fail at work, fail at your passion, fail at love. Fail faster.
These are part of the process to help us grow and turn those mistakes into lessons. Lessons that will get us one step closer to success.
Recalling what I have been doing in the 20s sure brings a lot of good memories. Decisions were made, some worked out and some didn't. But if it weren't for those circumstances and decisions, I wouldn't be where I am right now.
Just like you I am still figuring out life. Some of us might still feel lost, and it is ok. You don't need to have it all figured out to move forward. You just need to keep swimming.
About the Author
Personal Opinion and Written by Jake Olaso, MasterClass Ikigai